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Narcissism is term that refers to self-conceptionalisation and things done for that, although often it is used for merely or chiefly the negative aspects of that.[1] "Narcissism (or egoism) refers to a tendency to behave in a predominantly self-centered fashion."[2]

In comparison to NPD, trait narcissism is viewed as a continuous construct in which no attempt is made to make dichotomous decisions of a clinical nature. "Narcissism is extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them."[3] -- Joshua D Miller, W Keith Campbell[4]

The short answer: yes! Even self-loathing, low self-esteem or self-abnegation is a form of narcissism, just the negative kind. Most doers ARE narcissists and they don’t know it. It’s just another cover for inadequacy of course. Displaying great hubris about one’s achievements or talents is the opposite end of the spectrum. Most people are somewhere in the middle.

-- Sundari Swartz, September 2, 2018[5]

I just used the principle behind situational anxiety. To understand it, you have to view narcissism as a fear of [being lesser than].

-- comment by username ParkingPsychology[6].

Narcissism is so misunderstood. It's not about being selfish or egotistical. It's about never learning how to unconditionally love yourself, so you need perpetual constant positive feedback with makes you appear self centered and full of yourself, when the real issue is you hate yourself and are always scared you are one bad performance from being kicked off the planet.

--- Reddit post.

Although, counter-intuitively, narcissism is not very "self-reflective," narcissism is pathological self-reflection.

--- GE

it often feels that individuals are making themselves look impressive in contrast to and at the expense of others. 

---, Sep 2020[7]

“Rage makes narcissists of us all.”

--- Craig Malkin

Narcissism is extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them.[8]

Narcissism has been used to refer to the vulnerability (not necessarily conscious or visualised) towards negative perceptions of the self[9], or having excessively self-gratifying or grandiose ideas about one's self to whatever extent.[9] The narcissist is one who makes excessive investments in his self-image, although his self-image may be directed towards (include) things beyond the personal self, such as his ingroup or object relations.[9] Narcissism has become salient in therapeutic settings e.g. when the children of narcissist describe a parent that got enraged at any perceived slight towards their self-image. Narcissism is a type of self-gratifying identitarianism, and influences virtually everything in human self and social perception.[9] Narcissism is the process of self-gratifying identity perception to the extent that such a process causes pathology. Defenses such as aggression or lying can be applied to maintain that perception, with resulting collateral and consciential offenses.[9] The confusing of narcissism with NPD is one of the most pathetic examples of cultural idiocy. It's like thinking there is no difference between a station wagon and a F1 car. Just because milk is an ingredient in ice cream doesn't mean that all milk is ice cream.

The concept was introduced by Otto Fenichel' «The Drive to Amass Wealth» in the Psychoanalytic Quarterly. 7: 69–95., 1938, to describe a type of admiration, interpersonal support or sustenance drawn by an individual from his or her environment and essential to their self-esteem.

that a word can mean something really good and really bad is really confusing to people. but it's super enlightening once one gets to the heart of it. it reveals why people get self-esteem from both taking care of their dog and say, for another person, abusing their dog. humans simply get self-esteem from various things, and the narcs are the weird ones who get their self-esteem from stuff that overlaps with abuse a lot

Don't quote from my writing. Only friends are allowed to quote me.— "Anne Wolfe", Maí, 2020.[10]

Narcissism has to do with the libidinal investment of the self.

— Frank Yeoman, MD, PhD[11]

my grandma has sympathy for everyone, but empathy for no one

— G.E., 2020.[12]

The libido that has been withdrawn from the external world has been directed to the ego and thus gives rise to an attitude which may be called narcissism.

— Sigmund Freud, poss. 1914.[13]

In Lasch's definition (drawn from Freud), the narcissist, driven by repressed rage and self-hatred, escapes into a grandiose self-conception[14]

The article[]

‘Narcissism’ is a term that has been used to refer to the pathological acquisition of self-esteem. When the process of gaining self-esteem, especially from relatively patholgical behavior. The idea is based on the self reflection of Narcissus in the tale from the Ancient Greeks, who gets his self-esteem in a vain manner, by staring at his own image all day. The tale, by shewing a character staring at his own reflection all day, graphically presents the pathology of being too enmeshed with the image of the self: only looking at himself, Narcissuss does not properly empathise with the viewpoint of anyone else.

In one sense all of humanity's social problems result from narcissism (i.e. from doing the wrong thing for narcissistic supply). Everyone is narcissistic, just not necessarily (or variyingly) pathologically so. It's the relatively pathological narcissism that many of our social problems stem from. None of us are entirely free of it (except the traditions argue, the Buddhas, Jesus, Patañjali, and such figures; saints, arhats, etc), but those who cross a certain boundary on the spectrum get called frequently or by those who have insight—narcissistic—if not diagnosed as such. The difference between normal narcissism/self-esteem is in the source of it, how you get it; i.e. if you get your narcissistic supply mostly dysfunctionally/pathologically as opposed to normally, e.g. through art/creativity or being a good person in the latter case.

Narcissism operates in everyone, but has very different manifestations. Often called a malignant type of self-love, "it was recently reported that self-hating Narcissists don't feel self-love when looking in the mirror."[Where?]

Narcissist's chief tendency is to avoid cause, and thus blame.[15]

"Grandiose and vulnerable narcissism seem to be uncorrelated in empirical studies, yet they share at least some theoretical similarities."[16]

See: Narcissistic ego defense.


« Modell (1975) has described what he believes is the telltale narcissistic ego defense: a massive block against affective experience. This block against affect is empowered or motivated by a fear of closeness to the object and helps create and perpetuate an illusion of self-sufficiency. Disavowal may be understood as a defense that encompasses the blocking of affect, because it is the emotional significance of closeness that must be avoided in order to preempt fantasized humiliations and sustain grandiose illusions. »

Narcissistic disorder[]

"of specific importance for the development of NPD are inherited variations in hypersensitivity, strong aggressive drive, low anxiety or frustration tolerance, and defects in affect regulation (Schore, 1994)."

"Parents normally help their children to develop realistic self- esteem and to modulate and neutralize grandiosity, narcissistic distress, and excitement. However, inconsistent attunement and insufficient attachment can lead to failure in the development of functioning self-esteem and affect regulation. Schore (1994) suggested in his extensive and integrative work on biopsychological origins of affect regulation that the affective attunement between caregiver and child creates neurobiologically mediated emotional response patterns."

"Schore also suggested that the patient with either NPD or BPD does not have access to symbolic representation that can perform the important self-soothing, reparative functions encoded in evocative memory. They can not execute a reciprocal mode of autonomic control, and their ability to autoregulate affect are fundamentally impaired (p. 429). Schore believed that NPD and BPD represent different patterns of misattunements that contribute to their different characterological functioning."

"Based on reviews of studies of attachment patterns, Schore (1994) identified two types of caregiver-child patterns that may lead to the development of NPD. An insecure- resistant attachment contributes to a state of hyperactivation and affect underregulation, resulting in overt grandiosity, entitlement, and aggressive reactions to others. A depressed-hypoarousing attachment contributes to low energy and affect overregulation, leading to inhibition, shyness, predominant shame, and hidden grandiose strivings (pp. 426-427)."

"When the child is in a negative high state of arousal (e.g., aggressive separation protest), the caregiver fails to modulate the child or can even overstimulate the child into a state of dyscontrol. When the child is in a low-arousal shame/depressed state, the caregiver can not attune either to himself or herself or to the child to help the child out of this state. Overall, the caregiver is ineffective in regulating the child out of a low-arousal shame state and in offering limit setting in high-arousal states. As a result, the pre-NPD child does not develop the autonomic control and ability to neutralize grandiosity, regulate excitement, and modulate narcissistic distress."

"When affect mirroring is appropriately marked but is noncontingent, in that the infant's emotion is misperceived by the caregiver, the baby will still feel the mirrored affect display to map onto his primary emotion state. However, as this mirrored state is incongruent with the infant's actual feelings, the secondary representation created will be distorted. The infant will mislabel the primary, constitutional emotional state. The self-representation will not have strong ties to the underlying emotional state. The individual may convey an impression of reality, but as the constitutional state has not been recognized by the caregiver, the self will feel empty because it reflects the activation of secondary representations of affects that lack the corresponding connections within the constitutional self. Only when psychotherapy generates mentalized affectivity will this fault line in the psychological self be bridged. (Fonagy et al., 2002, pp. 10-11)"


«The Culture of Narcissism: American Life in an Age of Diminishing Expectations» is a 1979 book by the cultural historian Christopher Lasch.


  • Pathological, Defensive Narcissism: This is a defense against feelings of inferiority. The person dons a mask of arrogant superiority in an attempt to convince the world that he or she is special.  Inside, the person feels very insecure about his or her actual self-worth. This façade of superiority is so thin, that it is like a helium balloon—one small pinprick will deflate it.  This makes the person hypersensitive to minor slights that someone with healthy narcissism would not even notice. Instead, someone with this type of defensive narcissism is easily wounded, frequently takes any form of disagreement as a serious criticism, and is likely to lash out and devalue anyone who they think is disagreeing with them.  They are constantly on guard trying to protect their status. Pathological Narcissism can be thought of as protective armor that is on the outside of us. [N.b. this can be hidden to the outside world but only showed to family members, e.g. -- C.][17]



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  5. The Narcissism Of The Doer -
  6. (5) Why can I not logic away the pain of a hurt ego? : narcissism ( Originally said "fear of humiliation in a social interaction".
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